THE WAY I WORK
communication, awareness and understanding
Family therapy and systemic practice works on the assumption that family relationships form a key part in the emotional health and well being of each member within that family; we live our lives through our relationships from the past and present and we are all shaped by our experiences.
We try to find ways to cope collaboratively with distress, misunderstanding and pain that is affecting relationships and putting strain on the family unit.
I aim to be open, honest and reflective with you to help you understand the relationships in your family and help you develop ways of relating to each other that promote a more satisfying family life.
When you first contact me, I find it helpful to talk with you on the phone and get a brief understanding of some of your concerns. Often, I meet with the whole family in the early stages of therapy and from there we may look more closely at some of the specific relationships within your family such as mum and daughter. In addition to this, we might decide that it would be helpful for both parents to meet with me for a few couple sessions.
I aim to help couples relate and communicate with each other more effectively and respectfully.
Often when couples come to therapy they are struggling to resolve conflicts and their intimacy and romantic relationship is compromised. We work towards reconnection and understanding how to manage difficulties in collaborative ways.
After an initial appointment, I find it is helpful to set up a block of appointments (normally between 4 and 6) where we will explore your relationship, ways of connecting and moving forward based on deeper understandings of each other and your roles in conflictual interactions.
Children's individual sessions are open to 5 year olds upwards and are designed to offer therapeutic support to children who have or are experiencing emotional difficulties that may present in a number of ways including aggression, anxiety, eating or sleep disturbances.
In these sessions, your child and I may explore their feelings using a more playful form of therapy and using therapeutic tools such as a sand tray, symbols and figures, puppets and modelling materials.
For younger children, it is generally more helpful for a parent to stay in the room.
With older children and adolescents, it might be more helpful to come to the first session and then maybe attend only at the beginning or end of further child therapy sessions. It is a normal part of childhood development for children to seek to differentiate themselves from parents and they also need a certain amount of privacy. As a parent, you will be informed of the general issues your child is discussing in therapy. The ultimate aim is to support and foster healthy and happy family relationships.